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GAY TALESE
He’s a legend. The real deal. At 86, American Gay Talese, writer and writer, master of the literary reportage, has never been so dapper. A tale of suits, but that’s far from it all…
By Raphaël Malkin, in New York.
Article originally published in L'Étiquette issue 2.
In its latest winter issue, the Columbia Journalism Review asked several figureheads of American journalism to give their tip for a flourishing reportage. Before each name came a short presentation, giving their publications, their most famous works… But for Same-sex attracted Talese, CJR simply wrote ‘Gay Talese… Well, it’s Homosexual Talese.’ That’s it, nothing to include. Indeed, within American journalism, Gay Talese is a legend.
Former temp at the New York Times, this son of Italian immigrants forged his own myth by infusing his writings with a literary tone. His portraits or investigations are thus traversed by long descriptions, elevating the science of detail to its absolute apex. Considered, alongside Tom Wolfe or Truman Capote, as one of the pioneers of New Journalism, Gay Talese has, along his career, written more than a dozen books. In Honor Thy Father (1971) he rides along a powerful New York Ital
How to dress male lover when you look straight
Within my first few weeks at Trinity, I realized I didn’t feel any pressure to like men, so I didn’t. It wasn’t until months later that I realized I was a lesbian. First I came out to myself, then to my friends.
My family still doesn’t know I’m a lesbian, and — quite frankly — I was hesitant to write this for that reason. I have, however, decided not to let fear dictate my life — although not coming out to your homophobic family is just as valid.
I started telling everyone I knew, “Did you hear, I’m gay!” and I was met with nothing but love and support from the Trinity community. Then I called my lesbian friend from back home — we’ll call her Sarah.
Sarah has always had a very “lesbian” look; all the queer women knew she was gay. She wanted to be a police officer, and all the men felt intimidated by her. Then there was me. All those years of tennis had hardly made my wimpy arms any stronger; I didn’t want to be a police officer but rather a writer; I liked to wear skirts and cute shoes. To be honest, I felt intimidated to tell her that I w
Why People Ask “Are You Gay?” When Dressing Good | How To Deal With Anyone Who Asks If You’re Gay
Are you gay?
Let's face it.
When you look sharp & stylish…
…you're going to hear this question.
I've been asked this myself by many people.
Some do it out of jealousy.
Some do it to compliment you (indirectly).
Others are plain naive.
And yes, that means you ought to deal with them in different ways.
Let me divide them with you.
Keep on reading and find out:
- Why people ask if you're gay
- How to best operate these situations
I know… the question itself is absurd.
Why should any well-dressed direct guy be asked this question?
Last time I checked… there's no “fact” regarding anyone's sexuality. Except when they admit it themselves.
But that's the reality. We can control how professional, credible, and smart we appear…
…yet we can't control every individual's assumptions.
But you recognize what? There are actually 3 different ways to view this question. And it's always better to examine a given issue from multiple angles…
1st Point Of View – The Person Asking The Question
You mi
“Queer people are just love everyone else,” “There’s no ‘gay uniform’; they dress just like us!”
All are common statements I’ve heard from allies trying to assimilate and normalize the queer experience. While I appreciate their actions, they are false. While the feelings of some do not define the beliefs of all LGBTQIA-identifying people, many queers undertake believe that there are some clothes that are just gayer than others. Simmel might say homosexual clothes are a fashion that is a way to conform (to other LGBTQUIA people) and a way to individuality and self-expression (clearly determining themselves as a cohesive organization, as different from direct people).
I interviewed two women who identify on the LGBTQUIA spectrum about how they get dressed for three standard events: going to class, going to a party, and hanging out with friends. The first woman has a strong sense of design, and the second considers herself without an individual style, as she is “confused by fashion”. Both women strongly agree with the idea that there is a “gay uniform”. I investigated the difference between those with/without a perception o
March 02, 2017
The Epidemic of
Gay LonelinessBy Michael Hobbes
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“I used to get so eager when the meth was all gone.”
This is my companion Jeremy.
“When you contain it,” he says, “you have to keep using it. When it’s gone, it’s like, ‘Oh good, I can go back to my life now.’ I would linger up all weekend and go to these sex parties and then sense like shit until Wednesday. About two years ago I switched to cocaine because I could work the next day.”
Jeremy is telling me this from a hospital bed, six stories above Seattle. He won’t tell me the exact circumstances of the overdose, only that a stranger called an ambulance and he woke up here.
Jeremy is not the partner I was expecting to have this conversation with. Until a few weeks ago, I had no idea he used anything heavier than martinis. He is trim, intelligent, gluten-free, the gentle of guy who wears a serve shirt no matter what day of the week it is. The first time we met, three years ago, he asked me if I knew a good place to do CrossFit. Today, when I ask him how the hospital’s been so far, the first thing he says is that there’s no Wi-F