Attracted to other women but not gay

There are a few reasons why the word “heteroflexible” is controversial.

Some people still think that a person can only be attracted to one gender, and that this orientation can’t be flexible.

Another argument is that “heteroflexible” is a bi-phobic term, meaning that it’s bigoted toward double attraction people. This argument is that someone should simply call themselves bisexual if they’re attracted to more than one gender.

In an article in Affinity Magazine, writer Charlie Williams says the term contributes to bi-erasure because what we describe as heteroflexibility is actually just bisexuality.

There’s a common misconception that bisexual people are attracted to people of all genders to the exact same extent, but that’s not true — some bisexual people like one gender over others, so the word “heteroflexible” would fit into this definition.

However, as Kasandra Brabaw argues in this Refinery29 article, “People identify as queer, pansexual, fluid, polysexual, and many other words that mean they’re attracted to more than one gender. Those labels aren’t erasing bisexuality, so why is heteroflexible?”

It’s important to re

Sexual Attraction and Orientation

As people pass from childhood into their teen years and beyond, their bodies develop and modify. So do their emotions and feelings.

Adolescence Is a Occasion of Change

During the teen years, the hormonal and physical changes of puberty usually mean people start noticing an increase in sexual feelings. It's common to wonder and sometimes worry about brand-new sexual feelings.

It takes time for many people to realize who they are and who they're becoming. Part of that involves finer understanding of their own sexual feelings and who they are attracted to.

What Is Sexual Orientation?

Sexual orientation is the emotional, romantic, or sexual attraction that a person feels toward another person. There are several types of sexual orientation; for example:

• Heterosexual. People who are heterosexual are romantically and physically attracted to members of the opposite sex: Heterosexual males are attracted to females, and heterosexual females are attracted to males. Heterosexuals are sometimes called "straight."
• Homosexual. People who are homosexual are romantically and physically attracted to people of the same sex: Females who are attracted to
  
  

  7 Signs You Are Not Straight Even if it’s Later in Life

  There is no timeline for self-discovery and no end to maturation. As we flourish older, we can come to perceive a wide variety of things about ourselves that we hadn’t realized before or that possess changed over period, often because we are growing more comfortable and confident as we age. 

  Sexuality is no exception. Sexuality can be a lifelong finding, and something that takes time to fully understand, particularly for women who realize they aren’t straight later in life. It can be confusing, especially as an elder to be questioning your sexuality and wondering if all these years you somehow missed something big about yourself. You are not alone. Here are seven common signs that you may not be unbent, even if you discover and approve it later in life.  

   1. Straight girls don’t lie arise at night wondering if they are gay.

  This may sound obvious, but people who aren’t attracted to the identical sex, don’t usually worry about whether or not they are gay or bisexual. They don’t even think about experiencing attraction or sexual experiences beyond hetero experiences, so there is nothing to question. Or if

  Glossary of Terms

  Many Americans refrain from talking about sexual orientation and gender identity or phrase because it feels taboo, or because they’re frightened of saying the erroneous thing. 

  This glossary was written to help give people the words and meanings to help make conversations easier and more content. LGBTQ+ people use a variety of terms to identify themselves, not all of which are included in this glossary. Always listen for and respect a person’s self identified terminology.

  Ally | A designation used to describe someone who is actively supportive of LGBTQ+ people. It encompasses straight and cisgender allies, as well as those within the Queer community who support each other (e.g., a womxn loving womxn who is an ally to the bisexual community).

  Asexual | Often called “ace” for short, asexual refers to a complete or partial lack of sexual attraction or lack of interest in sexual exercise with others. Asexuality exists on a spectrum, and asexual people may encounter no, little or conditional sexual attraction.

  Biphobia | The fear and hatred of, or discomfort with, people who love and are sexually attracted to more than one gender.

  Bisexual | A person emotiona

  I’m finding myself very attracted to random women, am I gay?

  Dear Rhona,

  I’m in my early thirties and have been with my boyfriend for about six years, since we met at work.  I got pregnant by accident quite soon after we met and we decided together to go ahead with the pregnancy.  I love him to bits and he’s the optimal Dad to our minuscule girl. 

  He does most of the cooking at home and lets me lie in at weekends to catch up on sleep, always prioritising my needs above his.  We have a healthy sex life and sleep together about twice per week, which has been the standard since we met.  We’re not very adventurous but he never complains and it’s become part of my routine, I just don’t think about it. 

  Recently though, I’ve found myself, for the first time, being attracted to very random women. There’s a woman I see on the educate every day who I’ve started to fantasise about a lot. There’s also a friend-of-a-friend of mine who I’ve been out with a couple of times recently and felt a very strong urge to kiss though she’s not gay. I’m engaged enough to know that I can’t ignore these feelings but I don’t know what to act. I don’t want to break up my family and shatter the